CAN TWO PEOPLE THAT USE TO BE TOGETHER BE FRIENDS?
CreativeLSJ’s latest monologues talks about the friendship between exes. Asking the age-old question: Can two people that used to be in a relationship be friends? Is it even a good idea? What would you do when your ex is in a relationship but is disrespectful toward his girlfriend? There is nothing wrong with being friends, but you must respect your partner’s feelings. No one is holding a gun to your head to keep you there. To be trustful, he doesn’t even respect both ladies. He wants his relationship with his girlfriend, but he also wants his ex to be his mistress, as he tries to wait for that perfect moment that will never come. The ex he misses moved on and does not want a relationship with him.
This makes me ask you what your values are that you believe in. Write them down because there will be times when you will be tested, and you can refer to them when needed. I don’t know if you believe in Karma, but I do. What you give back is what you receive. Life can be tricky like that; it will allow you to experience things from a unique perspective. You will be put in the position to be the mistress and the person being disrespected by your partner. So, you can change your perspective and learn from your behavior and other people’s behavior.
So, if you are looking to get into a relationship, eventually, you have to think about times like this and choose not to entertain that behavior. Keep your distance. Say, No! Every time because the person is unavailable, you are not anyone sneaky link! If you don’t know what “sneaky link” means, it means, according to capitalfm.com, “a person that someone is secretly hooking up with.” Value yourself enough, love yourself enough to know that you deserve better.
We often ignore the inner voice that tells us, “No, don’t do that!” We are so hard-headed that we need to experience things ourselves. We want to feel the pain. Think of when you tell your child not to touch the hot stuff, but they touch it anyway, and their finger burns. We are still that child today in some ways.
To answer the question, can two people who used to be together be friends? The answer is yes and no. It depends on the individual and their behavior, self-respect, and respect for other people’s feelings. True Friends won’t put you in certain situations that will jeopardize who you are. They will honor and respect you. Sometimes getting back to that friendship takes time. Give yourself that time so no boundaries won’t be crossed, and you can stay true to your values.